Friends are the tonic against loneliness, isolation and are companions that are craved by all. It is said that girls can go without boyfriends but not without best friends. Not just girls, but this applies to each and every one of us, right? After all, who likes to drown in the sea of solitude? You may certainly like to be alone in times of sadness but who likes to be alone in times of happiness and success. For motivation, inspiration, moral support and companionship we need friends.
But as time passes, we grow older and strive to find true friends. Sometimes a change of cities, too much professionalism, graduation and other different factors make us lose touch with our friends and leave us stranded with a need to find new ones. This article is here to help you with just that – how to make friends.
A true friend is someone with whom you can interact with the deepest level of satisfaction. One who not merely stands with you in times of happiness but also at times of need. One who’s there not just during celebrations but during times when you’re weak and need a shoulder to lean on. That’s what a friend is and it’s not tough to find those because out there, there are more people like you who need friends. Befriend them and you’ll find your friends.
Helpful Tips on building friendship
Meet people: Point number one you need to pay attention to is finding some potential friends. Do some volunteer work where you’ll find kind people sharing your interest. You may join a club or take a class, or do some simple things like walking your dog in a public place, attending music recitals, book launches, etc, carpooling to work, inviting a neighbor or colleague for a drink, or connecting with your alumni. This will bring you in contact with numerous people.
Chat up: Start small talk. You can’t really hold them by the caller and force them to be your friend. You’ve got to make yourself likeable; you need to create topics you can talk about. Start by remarking on the surroundings or asking open ended questions like ‘What keeps you busy’ or something. Compliment him or her, discuss topics of similarities and most importantly, listen to what the person says.
Do your best to meet up often: Make plans of meeting later. Take down contact information. And do your best to keep every word and accept every invitation.
Be a good friend: Well, if you’re meeting up often, sharing stuff without strings attached, helping each other, you’ll are very much friends to each other. Now your aim should be being a good friend. For that, do the following:
Focus on the good points of your friend: It’s easy to point out the negativities of a person but highly difficult to appreciate their good points. So do just that, encourage their worth!
Always pass him or her a smile when you see them: Smile, you look beautiful! Even while talking on the phone or texting, your smile reflects on the conversation. So never forget to let your lips do what they do best – smile!
Don’t keep grudges: Don’t hold over to the past and keep reminding yourself how the other person has treated you, it could be corrosive to the friendship.
Stay Positive: To be a likeable friend, you need to show others what you see in them – the good points please!
Help out coz a friend in need is a friend indeed: Help a friend in need and he’ll always remember you and the number of blessings on your part will automatically add on.
Remain kind: Kindness is never out of place. Don’t be over grumpy and hateful with your sarcasm.
Show gratitude: Show how much you value your friends. Love them and they’ll love you back.
Keep repeating the cycle of meeting new people and adjusting and conversing with them. Soon you’ll find your social circle. Work to build a strong foundation and surely, yourly friendship will last long and forever.
You need to be a person you’d like the second person to be and treat your friends like you want to be treated. Listening efficiently is a very important part of this. Listen to what your friend has to say. Give time to the friendship. Give your friend space, no need to be too needy or possessive. Don’t put up a rule sheet or something; let your friend evolve herself/himself. Most importantly, forgive because no one’s born perfect!
Making friends is not tough. Neither is it about finding people who are your kind, rather it’s all about finding people who you are comfortable with. So, be patient and best of luck! May you hunt some of the best friends this world has to offer!
I am always here to befriend you all! Love u all ❤