Wanting to be with that extra special person always, holding hands, those ‘perfect life’ moments when you get a sudden kiss, those cherished hugs, songs sung together, making each other laugh out loud, crying together, sharing each and every moment of life, wanting to be in each other’s dreams, in short – loving each other unconditionally…but suddenly one day or rather over a period of time, it’s gone. No more is he your heartbeat, no more is she your breath of life…rather it’s a nightmarish scenario for you both and you want to call it quits!
Are you experiencing that? Well, then you certainly need to go through this article! I’m not going to council you here, but just ask you to go through the questions mentioned. Just ask yourself these questions before ending your relationship.
Is the problem too hard?
Ask yourself what the real problem is! Is it that your partner is abusing you, using violence or is an unchangeable drunkard? Then it definitely is a problem you need to solve by ending the relation hard heartedly. But if it’s not, if it’s just that you feel you don’t love each other anymore, or you feel it’s enough and you aren’t any good together cause of lack of understanding, then stop there for a while and talk to your partner about it. And by talk, I mean discuss it in a civilized way, don’t resort to ‘loud discussions’ or what normally people call fights. Stay calm, and maybe you’ll find out that you both still do love each other, there’s a string that you guys are holding on to! That in itself would make your relation worth fighting for!
Am I being rational?
You feel as if ending the relationship will open the blissful gates of the fantasyland known as ‘being single’, right? Wrong! What if you find out later on that you still miss him, that she was your life still? What then? He or she’s gone forever, and trying to gather lost feathers are one of the hardest things possible. Ask yourself and be just in answering the question: Is my relationship the only reason I’m unhappy?
Is his mistake greater than your love?
No one’s perfect and it’s a truth that one acquaints itself of sometime or another in life. You should keep this in consideration when you find your partner up to some mischief cause to err is human! The real question you should be asking is whether his mistake is huge enough? Or can a second chance be worth a shot? Ask if you can trust him again. Go back to those times of insecurity when his presence was enough to make you feel comfortable again. Don’t just let all that go in vain, try your best please!
Am I being too hasty or am I overreacting?
Promise yourself that you’ll give the problem a week’s time before ending your relation. Maybe, you’ll realize that it was a mere misunderstanding. Contemplate the issue from when you started feeling like ending the relationship! You can even go for a short vacation – on your own, without your spouse or partner. It would be a great change and you’ll get rational circumstances to think things out.
My family, is he or she any less of it?
Family and friends are a great issue. Pressure by them is one of the reasons why you tend to break it up. But ask yourself; is your family actually right? Does the relation mean anything to you so you can fight for it? Isn’t your partner one whom you had considered being your family too?
May you have a prosperous life with the significant other, because love once found should not be allowed to get lost!
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stay blessed! Love you all ❤