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She pulled the knife from her chest and smiled, “Was that supposed to hurt?” Every person in the room gasped as she stood there, the bloody knife in her hand, completely unaffected, her smile broadening by the second. It took two minutes for her to realize what had happened. An agonizing sting ran down her body, a sting called regret? With a frown, her fingers wandered to her chest, her eyes focused on the pool of blood at her feet. Her body felt weak. She fell on her knees, her legs unable to handle her weight. What did she just do? Slowly, she closed her eyes, only to open them again with a jolt.

This time, with a jerk of her head she pointed at her now dead daughter and said, “Another bitch down.”

 

Mother !

I had to share this one! 

It was 12th of November , two thousand something. Glittering earthen pots lit up my house, my neighbors’ house, practically the whole city and more. It seemed as if the sky had been upturned and the twinkling stars had fallen on earth. The occasion was ‘Chotti Diwali’ – as auspicious as a day could be.

My lovely mother, my father and myself had decided to burn firecrackers in the adjacent building – a building under construction, a building that belonged to us, a building that was soon to be lit up by my mother’s efforts and a number of earthen lamps. My sister, being the eco friendly one, had decided to stay back and enjoy the television shows instead.

Everything was nearly perfect. My mother followed my footsteps as I lead her upstairs. She had decided to light up the first floor as my father decided to walk on to the third one. Climbing up the first flight of stairs, beckoning to my mother, I took a 90 degree turn and started ascending the second one. But before I could lose sight of my mother, I saw her walk on straight instead of turning behind me.  I froze in horror as she disappeared in front of my eyes, right into the lift well built. She went down into the void of the well, with the lighted earthen pots filled with oil.

As the horror crept in, chilling me to the bone, the clatter of the fallen plate filled with pots filled my cold ears. I gave a horrified scream of terror. I yelled and yelled till my throat was dry and it hurt. Like needles, my own voice pricked my throat as I kept calling for her. My father rushed to me, leave alone my father – the whole neighborhood had collected near the dark building. Not a voice from my mother was heard. Rushing down I pulled my sister to the site, like a boy gone crazy. I was too worked up to speak. The lower half of the building, where mum had fallen, was filled with pointed nails, wooden pipes and other horrid things.

The worst part was my mother had never uttered a word. Was she ok?

When we finally reached back to the site, me and my sister, I saw my mother seated on a chair, all the neighbors clustered around her, her leg bleeding and resting on another chair, her face flinched up in pain.694138

But can anybody guess what she said when she saw us? Her very words were, “Are you children mad, have you locked the front door? Left it open as a feast to the robbers or what?” We were too surprised to speak, too relieved that she was ok, too shocked at her typical orders. She was still in her senses, rather she acted more sensible as compared to us. She had to undergo a severe operation later on, she’d broken two of her ribs and a hairline crack was spotted on her left leg. Her left side had loads of bruises.

Nobody knows how, what, why, etc of the accident and its purpose. But seeing her carry herself for the months of bed rest prescribed by the doc, I learnt that a mother is the most indispensible part of a family. She is the one who selflessly works not for herself but for the well being of our family. She used to wake up every morning at 4 to oversee that we go to school properly. She never abandoned her duties as a wife or a mother throughout, gulping down the pain she always was there for us.

A salute to her and all other mothers!

Suiciders

The past few days have been hard for a number of people down here. A charming young boy committing suicide ain’t no joke! But in the light of this incident, I learnt a lot. While doing my research and interacting with people real time, I gotta know that reality and truth isn’t always appreciated.

Anyway, keeping all that aside, I’ve got a request to all those out there reading this and trying to get to me indirectly : If you guys have got the guts, speak to me personally instead of taking the aid of people who know me! Thank you!

Now, for those who aren’t aware of my last post : A boy ‘A’ (for discretion),16, committed suicide on 8th of March without stating his reason and now the whole city thinks the education system, teachers and schools are the villains.

To those who think the above statement is true and stuff : I’d like to point out that in the past week THREE students committed suicide in our state. Two of them left notes suggesting they didn’t want to fail in their examinations. They belonged to the Hoshangabad and Sagar district respectively. But A never wrote anything on these lines in his note!

Then we come to a global level. In the past few days 24 students committed suicide (thanks Tejaswi for this piece of information). Not all of them had the same physics teacher who asked them to take tuitions.

But yet, since we probably don’t like the physics teacher we should definitely blame it on him. Just because he’s troubled us a lot by taunting us in class and stuff we MUST blame him and make it hard for him. Since we weren’t allowed to attend the annual sports day because we try to bomb the school, we should blame it on the school. Just because we aren’t selected in the annual torch light display team, we should blame it on the school. Just because we have nothing to do we should blame the education system. Right?

This is a call to those who think they know enough to start banging down doors of the temple of education demanding justice. How are you so sure that the claims made are true? In the last post somewhere I mentioned the possibility of the lad being a drug addict. I mentioned the POSSIBILITY  and those people had ants in their pants, imagine what should be the reaction of the school when the teacher is being ALLEGED of being guilty.

I don’t overrule the possibility of the teacher pressurising the student, but do you think that the boy would commit suicide just before the exam then?

And how would you explain the other kids who killed themselves?

This suicidal apocalypse has a root that must be dug into. The teachers were harsher in the 80’s still our parents respected them. Then why don’t we do so now?

It is true that exposed to the dejection caused by failure doesn’t come to a student before the 10th grade in the current pattern of education by CBSE and that is a good reason why students are committing suicide, but let’s question why in the first place did this system come into force? It was because students of middle school were committing suicide back then!

So why were THEY (the middle school kids) giving up their life? Because the parents were pressurizing them to get good grades! Ha! So it zeros up on the parents now, eh?

Now let’s relate this to the case of A. He never wanted to opt for a science stream. His parents forced him. Parents pressurized him equally. So, if the school WAS pressuring (the physics teacher to be precise) and he’s being held responsible, so the parents should be too!

Anyway, I won’t take A into consideration now as people are getting personal. But I’d like to clarify that in no way am I indifferent to his death. I lament it as much as you do. But that doesn’t mean I start burning effigies and creating unnecessary nuisance!

We are all civilised humans. We need to use our brains instead of our weapons. Rather we must  make our brains the best weapon!

And then, guys (the one’s who say the physics teacher is the only one who’s guilty), you can never corner him legally as poor A is dead and can’t testify. But do you know what you CAN do? Stop making coaching classes your second homes. You guys are promoting business by going to coaching classes. In my opinion, we must STOP taking coaching until we really need it. And even if we DO need it we should stay back and bug our own school teachers to teach us more of the subjects and clear the doubts. Coaching classes are a root to many issues.

Yes I too go to coaching classes and I won’t deny that…I’ll definitely justify myself! But we’ll get to that next time.

Stay smiling, stay civilized! Stay blessed!

Once again, Rest in peace A, you were loved and will be remembered.

PS: Sorry I never knew what to use as the title so I used this.

Love humanity !

 

Effective Teaching – Exploring Teaching Methods and Techniques

A teacher is said to have the most important job in the society; the job to shape and mold the future of the society – the children! Therefore, teachers need to focus on their job and turn up with best results.

Educating the children isn’t just about dumping loads of knowledge on them and pressurizing them to memorize the data but it is about actually teaching the children new stuff and making them learn the value of the material being taught to them. The children need to develop an understanding of the subject. And teachers are their guides on this track of life.

For this, there are many effective techniques and methods evaluated over the years. We’ll discuss the specific teaching methods here in this article.

Questioning: Asking questions and testing is undoubtedly the most effective and common way of teaching today. It enables the teacher to assess how much knowledge a student actually has about the subject and how much more needs t be imparted. When questions are asked related to everyday life, it makes the topic much more interesting. It is also responsible for making the class, somewhere or the other, more competitive in nature.

For example, if you’re teaching kids about polynomials, you can start by asking them how much they actually know about algebra or what are algebraic expressions.

Here, even the child is allowed to ask questions to the teacher. This lets the teacher know about the way of thinking of the student and the state of openness of his mind.

Explaining: Sometimes teachers go by introducing the topic and giving a proper summary on it. They share experiences and explain various factors of day to day life in a conversation form. If you are opting for this method, you need to make notes and make sure that your matter is related only to that particular age group. This method demands you to provide the class with examples on every subject or topic you discuss. It is a lively and traditional way of teaching.

For example, when teaching about various life processes, you can start by telling them what life processes are and then giving a short insight on how each one of them individually help the body function.

Modeling: Observing, retaining and replicating – these are the basis of this technique known as modeling or reinforced behavior. As we all know, visuals enable the human brain to retain information much more effectively and for a longer period of time, this proves to be an effective method. Here, various kinds of visuals and ‘models’ are used to demonstrate subjects and differences. It is generally accompanied by explanation.

For instance, if you are explaining closed and open circuit, you can ask the students to make a circuit model complete with a switch and ask them to observe how it works when the path is broken or complete.

It is also observed that students when taught using globes grasp much more than when taught using maps. A model of the earth helps students relate to real life positions and situation much better.

This is an especially effective medium in consideration to children as it prevents the things from going too dry.Selecting the right direction

Demonstrating: Demonstrating the subject is a step-by-step tutorial and very effective in clearing the concepts of the students. It develops an understanding of the process that is being taught right from the beginning till the end. Aids like practical equipments are a must for this technique. This method is not as effective for small children as it requires them to do first hand experimentation which might be difficult for them. But it is very valuable when dealing with older kids. Smart classes and computerized versions of teaching come under this.

Collaborating: “Collaborating” in modern world refers to team work. Dividing students into teams and giving instructions is beneficial in numerous ways. It makes the students aware of a sense of responsibility and team work. This direct instruction technique gives the students a stage to display their leadership qualities and their mental development level. They strive and come out with information helpful to obtain results. It is also a practice for dealing real life situations and overcoming petty distress. This technique spurts essential maturity development of the brain.

Reviewing: Reviewing or revising the material over and over with the class is always a good idea. This can be done in many ways. You can simply rehearse the material with the class. This can help you to tech forgotten material to the class and also clear doubts within the students.

You can elaborate topics while you are at it. For instance, you can ask the student to increase an answer of 20 words to that of 70 words by putting in their understanding and knowledge. This way you’ll get to know what exactly the child has grasped and how exactly he thinks about the phenomenon. You can even ask the students to do small projects on the things taught; like they could prepare charts, etc. Then it can even be used to ask children to merge previously learned information with the latest one and form suppositions. These pre – suppositions may or may not be correct, it’s your duty to correct them.

There are many more new techniques that have taken the place of old world, traditional ways. Role-play, field trips, computers, brainstorming, case studies are slowly emerging too. They are simple to follow and provide efficient results.

No matter what your technique is, remember writing lesson plans and preparing yourself before facing the children. While opting for a teaching method, keep in mind the age group you are dealing with and the topic.

All in all, don’t forget to be comfortable yourself with the topic. Provide the class with a light environment that makes teaching fun and fruitful for both, you and the students. Let the children express their own views. Encourage them to come up with doubts.

And always, always believe in them and I’m sure you’ll excel in your task of educating the children.

Dream – Be the Dreamer of YOUR dream! Let your kid live His/ Her life!

As seen nowadays, from childhood, a child is laden with dreams that are not his own but those of his parents. At every turning point, at every fork of life, he is dragged by his parents. He is led away from his talents and hobbies and told to study. At those moments, parents don’t realize that they are dragging their child away from what he is good at to something that probably is not in his capability. They don’t realize that the child feels enclosed and caged in a world that’s not his at all but the parents’. And that’s the starting point when stress starts building up in a child. A will to fly in the open skies, when suppressed frustrates him!

And when that same child reaches his teenage, he gets unruly. Just like when a caged animal is freed, he goes out of control taking undue advantage of the bit of freedom he gets. And then those parents complain that their teen is rowdy and juvenile. But you tell me now, is it right to expect a child to follow your dreams or to kill his own desires? If a child is good at painting and you force him to be a CA, what else do you expect from him but that he’d paint on his documents instead of calculating and then get kicked out of his job! Duh!cropped-download1.jpg

Parents will have to realize that by dumping the goals they’ve never achieved on their children they are spoiling their lives and are inviting delinquency in their kids, and as the saying goes, a balanced sustenance reaps the pink fruit.

So before forcing your kid to study study and study or compeling them to go in for science stream wait for a second and think if you’re actually showing him the right path or pushing him in for depression! Just befriend your kid from babyhood and instead of obliging him, discuss matters with him and mark my words- a guide is more helpful as compared to a map! So be his guide and not just a bossy old chap ordering away without troubling ‘bout his feelings.596879-6724-23

Homeschooling Basics – How Do You Start Homeschooling Your Child?

Homeschooling is a rapidly rising form of education, especially in the US. Right from various safety benefits, less exposure to alcohol, drugs and bad company, emotional benefits like less exposure to name calling and bullying, less exposure to sexual pressure, to great family bonding and an environment appropriate for spirituality, homeschooling seems an attractive option to parents.

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If you are wondering whether you can home school your child or not, the answer is yes you definitely can if you are devoted to his career, ready to let go yours (not fully of course) and be a committed and involved parent.

Once you are convinced that home schooling is the thing for you and your kid, you need to do some serious planning and budgeting. Getting ready your environment isn’t half as hard as important it is! So here are a few tips that will ensure your success!

#1 Check on the Legality

Though homeschooling is perfectly legal, the rules and regulations vary greatly from state to state. Some of these might not even require you to inform the concerned authorities about it, whereas some are so strict that they need the evaluation report of the kid per month. Some of the strict states even code it that the syllabus and curriculum need approval by the state. So its mandatory for you to check on these rules and regulations followed in your state.

#2 Locating a Support Group

Support groups are organizations that are set up to offer guidance, encouragement, help with choosing curriculum and schedule keeping. Joining one of these could be of great help. Sometimes, it takes a bit longer than usual to find the right one for your family. So keep patience!

#3 Choose a Curriculum

The next step is designing or choosing a syllabus – one of the most essential steps. If you live in a state that doesn’t make it compulsory for you to follow the state curriculum, you have a wide variety of options available to you. You can make up a syllabus of your own. If you need to emphasize on science, instill more of scientific activities and if your focus is arts keep that in mind while making the syllabus. This can be time consuming but the results will turn out to be definitely satisfactory. If you belong to an educational background, you would definitely prefer this. If not, there are always pre-packaged curricula available. Various sites also offer free homeschooling material that can cut down your costs a bit!

#4 Scheduling!

Though homeschoolers have a very reflexive and easy go schedule opportunity, they must not waste it. Instilling discipline in your young one is now your responsibility. So a routine should be planned. Take a look at your syllabus and divide it into periods. Be frank about how much time you’d take according to your way of teaching – and yeah you could be quite innovative here! If you feel like, change your surroundings once in a while – instead of your residence room go in for a study on the grassy lawn or in the green park! But don’t forget to track your progress. You may need to review and make changes later on, but try your best to stick to this schedule.

#5Consider your child’s wishes

At times, especially when you withdraw your kid from the school, he or she may start feeling lonely. You may require a session of deschooling to get your child comfortable. Make sure you enroll your child in some club or library to avoid lowering his social terms. He or she needs to meet and make friends with people or else it could be harmful for his or her mental evaluation.

Homeschooling is not tough. In the beginning it may seem awkward, but once you get the rhythm, it’s all good. Be sure to be involved with your child’s activities even if you have hired a tutor. Make note of difficulties you face and mistakes you’ve made and refer to these when you start a new homeschooling term. If you make sufficient efforts, there can be nothing as rewarding as homeschooling.

Be careful, don’t fret and step ahead. All the best and may you succeed in this awesome adventure you’ve taken up.