Minds are open only if hearts are open

I Wrote this piece when I was 14 years old. I don’t know if it makes sense…but do check out! Don’t foreget to leave reviews below! I love getting commented on 😉 


ArtofBeingMe-Header21Taking hold of Tina’s hand, Reema led her towards the so called ‘A – class’ table. Reema, one of the moneyed ones herself, offered the underprivileged girl a seat. As the whole mess looked on with dazed expressions, Tina sat down tentatively. “What is this, Reema?” questioned the ‘boss’, “You know that a lowly girl like her cannot sit with us. You wanna be friends with a disgusting daughter of a rickshaw man?” And, to her horror, Reema answered, “Yeah, because my mother taught me to be good to people.” Then added, “And she even told me not to go around in bad company, but sadly enough, I ignored her and now have to bear the consequences.” “Are you out of your mind?” someone whispered. “Mind? Ha. That’s open only when hearts are….provided that you have one,” Reema answered in a low tone before walking away.

Well said, won’t you say so? Minds are opened only when hearts are opened! And that is true most of the times. Caste, color, creed, country and distinction on these basis is something that’s prevalent not just in our society, but in the whole country, continent, world, everywhere. But what are these? Misconceptions? Wrong judgment? Biasness? No. All this is just because we don’t accept the poor, pitiable people. Just because we don’t love a section of our society. Just because we don’t open up to them. Just because we don’t give them a place in our HEARTS. And this thinking is what promotes disagreements, fights, crimes, and other dire things in our society; this very thinking, thought only with our minds and not hearts; this narrow-mindedness is the root.

Many of us believe that opening our hearts is ‘giving in to temptations’, to distractions. But that’s not true, opening our hearts means loving everyone, demolishing differences, rubbing off the lines that cut us from each other and seeing the world as one, not dissected sections. In other words, it’s being impartial. There is a very powerful saying that I quote here, “If you can’t change something, then accept it; and if you can’t accept something then change it.” But this can only be executed when we think emotionally and logically. And if we do it, I bet 90% of our social issues would disappear, because most common of our problems are that of discrimination between women and men, between the rich and poor and between scheduled castes/tribes and general class. And it just doesn’t stop at that. When we use our hearts, we love. When we love, we think. When we think, we understand. When we understand, we help. And when we help, we make the country a better place to live in! We make friends who trust. And trust is the most important thing in a successful relationship.

And an open mind? Well it simply refers to broadmindedness, non-judgmental attitude, tolerance and permissiveness. And I’m sure, all of you must have seen that heart and mind go along like a rider and its horse, and sometimes people even mistaken heart for mind and mind for heart. There’s just a thin line separating them. And if you try, you can merge the two things to get better results.

But some may oppose this theory. Some may say that when we use our hearts, we think irrationally; that we lose our logic; that we stop following the right path. But there’s something I would like to point out: don’t robots too think? They too work, don’t they? They too do things that humans do, don’t they? They too have a brain, don’t they? So shouldn’t they too be referred to as human? NO, you would say. There is a basic difference between them and us. And it is that of a soft, rhythmic beating known as heart beats. They lack it. We don’t. So if god has given us a heart, why not use it? After all, logical thinking is done even by robots that don’t have hearts, but god has given it to us because of some reason. Realize it. And use it. Because our system works differently. Because we are made to think differently. To think not only with a broad mind, but with an equally large heart. So, don’t be a robot and along with motion have some emotions.

Still, if you think that there’s no connection between hearts and minds, then think of those moments when you had to make a choice. A choice between right and wrong. A choice between you yourself and the disadvantaged one in front of you. A choice between duty and expectancy. Or something as simple as a choice between telling your best friend about something or rather dying with a heavy heart (not literally dying). In those moments, whom do you generally refer to? To that logical brain of yours? I’m sure your brains are mostly absent then. You get emotional or else you aren’t able to make a choice. Isn’t it so? So we conclude that we have to get emotional at some points of our lives, and even if we don’t, the circumstances make us so. And broadmindedness will only come to us if and when we’ll open up, with our minds and hearts…..

But if you still think it’s not true, or you think you’ve never experienced a situation like the ones mentioned above, or you still think that one should blindly follow one’s closed mind as opposed to a broad and open one (that comes with a heart like that) then you should seriously consider Reema’s statement, Minds are “open only when hearts are….provided that you have one!”


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SHE – The one who’s amazing!

She’s pretty, undeniably so. Her perfectly silky hair makes you ask her for the secret mantra. Her glowing skin makes her the topic of the day. Her ability to look good in whatever saree she puts on makes her the local fashion icon. Though not slim, she’s the ideal woman.

She’s hardworking, inevitably so. Giving up all she earns to the family funds, she never complains about not being able to buy a lipstick of her choice without permission. Waking up at 4 in the morning, she cooks up the meals, gets ready for work and wakes up the lazy butts lying on their comfy bed. She never lets them get late.

She’s the best cook in town, I bet! You won’t be able to resist the urge to lick your fingers if you eat food cooked by her. Continental or traditional, spicy or sweet, vegetarian or non-vegetarian , name it and she can make it – tastier than the local chef in demand.

She’s the best teacher. Not just at the school she teaches, but at her own home. Sewing, embroidery, knitting, writing, cooking, driving, anything – she’s the one who teaches you the way you never forget.

She’s a wonder woman! Everything she’s been bearing is no joke. You won’t write much about it – and so won’t I, but yeah, she’s a wonder woman.

You can’t describe her in a few words, you can write a whole thesis on her and still you’d feel you’ve missed a few points.

Yeah she get’s angry, she yells, sometimes she gets intolerable, she get’s tired – but she rarely shows it (but when she does, I swear she’s as dangerous as a hungry lion, n i guess I’m not exaggerating, wink wink!). Gosh..I got started again!

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That’s My Mummy!

She’s that good – rather great – that you can’t stop wondering how could someone be so great! Maybe I’m meddling up my words, but all I wanna convey is that SHE is unique and the best!

I feel so lucky to have her in my life.

It isn’t just this one day that I’m feeling lucky, I feel so every nano second of my existence! Right from supporting me while writing to editing my work, from bearing my drama to helping me grow up into a better human, she’s been there.

And the name I call her by is:  MUMMY! Sweet? I know!

But she’s sweeter….I wish everybody in the world could get someone as sweet as her in their lives. SHe’s the best and she rocks!

Even now, I ‘m not getting words to describe her – but she’s simply amazing, trust me!!!

Happy mother’s day to all those amazing, beautiful super mommies out there (including mine)! 

Don’t forget to leave a wish in the comments below 😉 !


PS: In India, mother’s day is being celebrated today! 

Love yourself Quote #2

So here goes my second love yourself quote! I’ll be posting more of these on a weekly basis! Hope it helps to keep you motivated through the day!

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Befriend your mind, love your heart, marry your soul, and I bet you, happiness would never divorce you!

Stay tuned for more of these 🙂

Stay blessed! Love you all!

Dear Diary!

There’s been a question disturbing my piece of mind since many days and today I’d like to voice it – WHAT AM I?

Oh I have no doubts about being a girl, 16yrs of age at that, but what I really want to know is AM I an adult or a child?

In the adjoining room, seated in front of the television with a chopping board and a bottle guard in hand is my typical Indian mother who at one instance argues that I’m too young to go over my friend’s place for a harmless party and at the very next instance says that I am old enough to go three kilometers out of the way to the grocery shop to get finely ground white flour – just the way she likes it – for the delicacy she wants to prepare for some distant aunty who’s visiting her after a long time, say about after two days!

She says I should behave lady like and like a tamed young girl – all prim and proper – in front of the society. But, but, but, if I just as much as comment on something they’re all discussing, I’m told to shut up and keep mum like the 16yr old I am. Well, what do you say about that?

Ok, all that is bearable but what happened today surpassed all. You see, next week is my dear Shreya di’s wedding, and don’t ask me who that is coz frankly I’ve met her just twice but obviously it’s a big event as mummy took me out shopping for that. So I am supposed to be dressed traditionally. No issues at that. But trust me; shopping with mum was one hell of a nightmare! Unbelievably disastrous that trip turned out to be!

I chose a Sabyasachi sleeveless fishtail cut peach costume. It was hot I must say. Just as I was about to take it off, I was dragged to check out a down market, yellow and blue lehenga with stupid sequences and bright zari all over it. It’s hard to breathe in with that thing on, leave alone attending the wedding. There were similar war waged over jewelry and sandals and other such stuff.

After this spree, I have no doubts about mum being intent on turning me into Lady Gaga II.

The next intended pun was at the saloon. Is it so out of the ordinary to color one’s hair? I didn’t ask for a ridiculous purple or pink dye but just a streak of rust highlights. But no, Mrs. I-like-you-offended had to intervene! Doesn’t she know there is ammonia free stuff available now? Or does she seriously want me to be in a huff at all times?

Am I allowed to do nothing I like? Am I too old for half the things I enjoy? Am I too young to indulge in activities I find fascinating? Or is it that the statement ‘act you age’ is a punch line for all times for parents who want to save themselves the pain of changing THEIR outlook.

Shouldn’t people update themselves with the changing times? Shouldn’t they try to understand teenagers as they themselves have been through this age? Or am I being too fussy about something adolescents have been facing since time unmemorable.

I don’t know…but I’m not made of moldable soil. I am what I am and always will be. I won’t change myself!

ps: I’m sorry if you were bored coz of my ranting…! And thanks for reading the whole thing!

Love you all ❤

But then mummy says I’m too old to preserve that attitude…

Build Friendship – How to Make Friends

Friends are the tonic against loneliness, isolation and are companions that are craved by all. It is said that girls can go without boyfriends but not without best friends. Not just girls, but this applies to each and every one of us, right? After all, who likes to drown in the sea of solitude? You may certainly like to be alone in times of sadness but who likes to be alone in times of happiness and success. For motivation, inspiration, moral support and companionship we need friends.

But as time passes, we grow older and strive to find true friends. Sometimes a change of cities, too much professionalism, graduation and other different factors make us lose touch with our friends and leave us stranded with a need to find new ones. This article is here to help you with just that – how to make friends.

A true friend is someone with whom you can interact with the deepest level of satisfaction. One who not merely stands with you in times of happiness but also at times of need. One who’s there not just during celebrations but during times when you’re weak and need a shoulder to lean on. That’s what a friend is and it’s not tough to find those because out there, there are more people like you who need friends. Befriend them and you’ll find your friends.

Helpful Tips on building friendship

Meet people: Point number one you need to pay attention to is finding some potential friends. Do some volunteer work where you’ll find kind people sharing your interest. You may join a club or take a class, or do some simple things like walking your dog in a public place, attending music recitals, book launches, etc, carpooling to work, inviting a neighbor or colleague for a drink, or connecting with your alumni. This will bring you in contact with numerous people.

Chat up:  Start small talk. You can’t really hold them by the caller and force them to be your friend. You’ve got to make yourself likeable; you need to create topics you can talk about. Start by remarking on the surroundings or asking open ended questions like ‘What keeps you busy’ or something. Compliment him or her, discuss topics of similarities and most importantly, listen to what the person says.

Do your best to meet up often: Make plans of meeting later. Take down contact information. And do your best to keep every word and accept every invitation.

Be a good friend: Well, if you’re meeting up often, sharing stuff without strings attached, helping each other, you’ll are very much friends to each other. Now your aim should be being a good friend. For that, do the following:

Focus on the good points of your friend: It’s easy to point out the negativities of a person but highly difficult to appreciate their good points. So do just that, encourage their worth!
Always pass him or her a smile when you see them: Smile, you look beautiful! Even while talking on the phone or texting, your smile reflects on the conversation. So never forget to let your lips do what they do best – smile!
Don’t keep grudges: Don’t hold over to the past and keep reminding yourself how the other person has treated you, it could be corrosive to the friendship.
Stay Positive: To be a likeable friend, you need to show others what you see in them – the good points please!
Help out coz a friend in need is a friend indeed: Help a friend in need and he’ll always remember you and the number of blessings on your part will automatically add on.
Remain kind: Kindness is never out of place. Don’t be over grumpy and hateful with your sarcasm.
Show gratitude: Show how much you value your friends. Love them and they’ll love you back.

Keep repeating the cycle of meeting new people and adjusting and conversing with them. Soon you’ll find your social circle. Work to build a strong foundation and surely, yourly friendship will last long and forever.

You need to be a person you’d like the second person to be and treat your friends like you want to be treated. Listening efficiently is a very important part of this. Listen to what your friend has to say. Give time to the friendship. Give your friend space, no need to be too needy or possessive. Don’t put up a rule sheet or something; let your friend evolve herself/himself. Most importantly, forgive because no one’s born perfect!

Making friends is not tough. Neither is it about finding people who are your kind, rather it’s all about finding people who you are comfortable with. So, be patient and best of luck! May you hunt some of the best friends this world has to offer!

I am always here to befriend you all! Love u all ❤

Unveiling The History of Seattle’s Underground City

Situated in the state of Washington, a 100 miles from the Canadian border, lies a major port city of US – Seattle. The mystics of the Queen city are something of historic importance. A look at the history of Seattle’s underground city would leave you intrigued too, I’m sure.

seattleThe Seattle we know today didn’t exist until the 6th of June, 1889. The modern day Pioneer Square was a void of nothingness before 1889. What was the magnanimous event that turned the pre existing void to what it is today? Was it a magnanimous event or a traumatic disaster?

The underground city life

Before we go into the deep, let’s know a bit of the pre 1889 Seattle. It used to lie 12-30 feet below the present Seattle. The swampy mud land was inhabited by the Native American tribes of Duwamish and Suquamish. The town of Seattle started evolving around the Pioneer Street, located exactly where it is today. From here, the city began growing as a series of upward rising streets and at the base of this hill was a low lying marshland. Due to tides, this area used to flood twice a day. The sewage lines located by the corner of the water front streets were not spared this flood and this meant that people going to the loo had to be careful or else they could be blown off their seats during a tidal wave. The visit to the water front was now regulated according to the tidal time table and the toilets were built on the first floor. Even the single leveled houses had their toilets on pedestals.

Slowly, Seattle started organizing better. The high crime rates started dropping and by early 1890’s the city was a leading one, courtesy the womenfolk and their hard work. The numerous wooden house dwellers started involving in trades.Michael Benton HiRes (2)

The Great Fire

On one fine day when the fire chief was out of town, June 6th, 1889, a cabinet maker spilt glue over gasoline fire. It is needless to describe the after events – the glue catching fire, spreading around, majority of the city made of wood, the volunteer fire workers though being helpful but not as efficient…it was a matter of some 12 hours after which 120 acres of Seattle city was transformed to ashes. Courthouse, churches, service buildings – all were burnt to the foundation. Everything came to a screeching halt as the people found their properties in ruins and mind you, there was just one case of casualty if we talk about the human population – no harm to them!

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1931 Hipodrome

However, the people of Seattle were not the ones habitual of fretting. They were rather relieved that the fire had eased one of their troubles; the rodent population had been reduced to vestiges by the fire. The civilians got their hats on and picked themselves up. Hey decided to rebuild rather than relocate. In this combustion, they saw an opportunity to rebuild their precious city according to their liking.

Second chances are rare, they say. It’s important to make note of how you use the second chance given to you and Seattlers proved pretty good in making the better of the one given to them. Amongst the various measures taken, wooden buildings were banned and stone and brick was introduced. To rid themselves of the tide problem, they started building on higher platforms. Downtown was leveled. Some roads were raised by as much as 22 feet. All business moved to the upper floor. Decoration downstairs was reduced whereas gaiety increased on the upper floor. People had to climb up the stairs to visit shops. Even to cross roads, they had to climb up and down staircases. With the lightning of glass prisms in the underground city, the people of Seattle started living a new life. It was a beginning after a disastrous end.3804151495_bfcb886d97

Soon, the threat of more rodents led to the flight of the underground city to the over ground one. People moved their residences upstairs. Buildings in the underground were used as warehouses and coops of nefarious activities.

Eventually, people forgot about it and it lay abandoned. The new generation new little about it and cared even less due to their ‘race the time’ schedules.

Bill Speidel’s Underground Tour    Fire-Horizontal

And then came into play Bill Speidel, the famous savior of the Pioneer Square, a columnist with the Seattle Times by profession. It was the year 1954 when the city’s birthplace had fallen to such a case of disrepair that few gave it its rightful respects. Shirley, Bill’s wife, suggested he should get it restored and that’s where the saga of Bill Speidel’s Underground Tour begins.

During his activism, he, unanticipated by nature of course, chanced upon some old shops elevated after the fire. He paid a certain amount to various store owners as rent and inspected the elements closely. It was a matter of great struggle with the Seattle City Council before the underground city was first recognized as of historic importance. Having the support of over 100000 people, Bill moved on with a petition and got 20 blocks of the Pioneer Square as Historic District. He opened up an Underground Tour and on the first day took about 500 enthusiastic customers around.

The 1960’s were when the Seattle Central Association, a under oath enemy of historic preservation, tore down buildings to make parking lots for the automobile reign. The pioneer street would surely been under attack if it had retained its state of disrepair. But the plate of ‘Historic district’ encouraged the banker’s enough to kick in cash funds for development of the area. The preservation of the Pioneer Square was underway! Today they it’s known as one of the oldest neighborhoods and it’s hard to imagine how under cherished the place once was.

Over the years, the buildings have been smartened up to make them visually attractive. Bill Speidel took his customers on a tour that had the underground charm and was in every way ‘under the ground’, countering the situation today due to the city Council’s concern and claims of it being unsafe. That’s the time the underground city was unveiled in the real sense to the people.

The subversive city was affirmed dangerous years ago, but parts of it are open for tour conductors. The tours include visits to old bank vaults, toilets, furniture, wooden beams and all along with mice and mustiness. Tours are popular amongst tourists and locals alike. In 2004 adults only Underground Tours were organized incorporation talks about prostitution, the opium trade and other immoral deeds. Tales about ghosts are not uncommon, rather the people who question the existence of phantoms in the said district are regarded as under informed, naïve idiots!

G4LQD00Z Seattle, a really intriguing place with Microsoft, Amazon, Starbucks lying alongside an intricately unintentional ‘Underground’, today is known as one of the big boys and is counted along with New York and San Francisco. The Rainy City has its own store of old worldism and theology to offer. Leaving you speechless is not its intention, but so was the case with the creation of the city below and old habits are hard to rid…